Studies upon studies show that caregiving systems (families) dramatically influence the development and emotional well-being of children.
To me this reaffirms the the beauty of ‘BEING THERE” for our children, emotionally, physically, mentally.
Mothers are incredibly powerful. (Sometimes I need a good reminder of that when I’m feeling invisible…does anyone else feel that way sometimes??)
Oh, I have lots more to say about that attachment theory at some point, but for now I just want to talk about one of my favorite take-aways from the class:
I LOVED the theory of the “welcoming response.”
My class talked about how important a positive “welcoming response” is for children: for caregivers (usually a mother) to light up when their child comes into a room.
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The art of starting a conversation:
A simple formula: Make an observation, then ask a question.
- Bring up something you observe: "I love your Michigan hat. Are you from there?"
- Look for commonalities: "did you say you used to be a lifeguard? Me too!"
- Find connection: "I think I recognize you from middle school. Did you go to KJH?"
- Share a compliment: "Your solo was incredible. Do you take private lessons?"
- Be honest: "I've never taken CE classes and feel super overwhelmed. Have you done them before?"
Brooke Romney
Those who accomplish most, are those with a vision for their lives.
Each of us have a four fold responsibility:
1) Family - home
2) Employer - Self-reliance
3) Lord's work - If ye have desires to serve God, ye are called to the work
4) Ourselves - recharge, evaluate, rest, exercise, development, quiet time
Invite the spirit by reading scriptures, temple worship, music (hymns)
PRAYER Formula
Relaxed- Do this first, take deep breath
Remember- 1) How blessed you are 2) How small you are
Rethink- I need the spirit, I need to love more, away from the mundane, look at it differently
Release- The most powerful thing you can do, release your own agenda, seek inspiration
Request- That you get on God's wavelength, request guidance that leads you to what would really matter today
Receive- What you are looking for (sometimes quick, sometimes it takes longer)
Respond- You can't just sit on it, have a pen handy and write down what you need to do, act
Rejoice- It is so important to thank God for His help
Have a relationship with God
From Richard Eyre
New Year's question:
What's one thing that if it happened this year, it would make this the best year of your life?
Relationships and spiritual creation facilitation trips
If the family is going to gather, it's going to be you that does it.
The pluses of gathering your family, way out match the minuses.
Just do it. Be the one who connects the roots to the branches.
T-trunk
E-Ear (listener)
A-Assembler-gatherer
M-Match giving as you are able to, give to your kids usually through matching
Think how to make it work for your family.
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